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18 Nov 靈性家排手記八 – 人間

“她好像很喜歡我,可是我不認識她。” 走在上海郊區的街道,驀然想起昨天台上的家排個案說的這句話,說完之後她大哭。而當我想起這句話的時候,眼眶也不禁紅了。 導師班從模塊三到模塊七,終於從肅殺之氣凜然的北方,移動至溫暖的南方,雖然我出生於海島,有別於大陸型氣候,但是在這移動當中,我發現自己畢竟是個南方人,一到深圳和上海,就覺得渾身自在許多。而我和同學融入的程度,也從一開始的冷眼相看到現在的依依不捨。 已經不止七次和你們在一起了。 自從被海靈格夫婦領到這片之前從未踏上的土地,每一次見到你們,走在另一個充滿代表性的中國城市,我都覺得充滿了新鮮和好奇。 我聽得懂你們的話,又像是聽不懂; 我看得懂你們的文字,又像是看不懂;我猜得到你們的心思,又像是猜不透。 在奧地利的時候,我看著你們成群結隊地玩,抱團談笑吃飯,而我是一個人,徹頭徹尾的一個人,包在繭裡,藏在心裏,悶在鼓裏的一個人。 沒有人和我說話,我也沒有能力和誰在一起。我想大聲吶喊,又怕被攆出去,滿腦子的不服氣化成擤不完的鼻涕和鼻子邊上一顆大膿皰。那時我的樣子一定很可怕。 我拼命地在教室裏擤鼻涕,每一下巨響都像在聲聲地說:”不...

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05 Apr Reconciliation With Parents

  海街日記(うみまちダイアリー)是日本導演是枝裕和的清新小品, 我更喜歡它的英文片名 Our Little Sister - 我們的小妹妹。這是一部關於和解與接納的電影,也是一部很女性很療癒的電影,適合曾經在母親那裡受傷的人細細品嘗。 Umimachi Diary is a refreshing piece by Japanese director Hirokazu Kore-eda. I like its English title, Our Little Sister, more. This is a film about reconciliation and acceptance. It is also very feminine and very healing - good for people who have been hurt with their mother to savor unhurriedly. 影片開始時三姐妹在外公外婆留下來的老屋中生活,有一天接到消息,當年因為外遇而與母親離異的父親去世了。父親自從與母親離異之後,自我放逐,住在一個遠方的小鎮上,直到病死,都無顏再見三姐妹。 The story starts with three sisters living in the old house left by their grandparents. One day, they receive some news. Their father, who had divorced their mother for another woman, has passed away. After the divorce, the father had exiled himself to a small...

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