I met with a friend today, and we started talking about our experience as the caregiver to our spouse who had cancer. The first thing he said was that people often focused on the one who’s ill, but overlooked the caregiver. “I was trying to be strong for her,” he said, and he paid a big price for that. The stress of facing a pending death is more comprehensive and intangible than most people think it is. It is not even about the demand of providing care physically, or financially. The emotional and psychological stress alone is invisible
Why do I feel so tired, all the time? It feels like I have brain fog. I am not motivated to do anything – this is not me! In my previous (March) post entitled “Why going to someone is more effective than self-help, self-study, reading a book, etc.?” , I talked about the fight-flight response that happens when our sympathetic nervous system is activated under a stressful or traumatic event. Let’s focus more on our parasympathetic nervous system today, and look at how the dysfunction of this system can lead us to chronic fatig
Dancing with Ancestors Every 4th Wednesday 6:45pm to 9:00pm at Juice Truck, 28 W 5th Avenue, Vancouver 5/25/16 Mini Delights – Constellations with stones, in pairs, and in triads 6/22/16 Body-Mind-Spirit Constellations – Look into the relationship between your body, mind and spirit 7/27/16 Family Constellations – Disentangle with your families and restore the order of love 8/24/16 Prosperity Constellations – Discover who/what your money monster is and get rid of it! 9/28/16 Nature & Animal Constellations – Explore y
What are we reading? When The Body Says No, By Gabor Mate, M.D. Kitchen Table Wisdom, By Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. Radical Remission, By Kelly Turner, Ph.D Hardwiring Happiness, By Rick Hanson, PH.D Why join this book club? This book club is for health-minded people who want to know more about the intricate connection between stress and their health, who are currently experiencing health challenges, or recovering from a major illness. Reading with a group and having a discussion about what you read is very different from reading on your ow
I don’t usually talk about my private life. However, the experience of living through the shock and the treatment process of my husband’s cancer helped me realize many important things. It truly brought my professional and personal life together. Therefore, I will share this writing here, and hopefully this sharing will inspire someone. There was a particularly bad day. His whole person looked different. He looked like he was beaten up all over even though there were no bruises. He could barely talk or swallow anything, not even water,
Most of my clients are savvy, independent, and capable people. They have read many books, watched many Ted-talks and have learnt many self-help skills. They tell me they felt like a failure when they came to talk to me for the first time. They have tried so hard and worked on themselves so much, they think they “shouldn’t” need anyone’s help. So, let me explain, from a neuroscience perspective, why going to someone feels better, and works better and faster than doing it yourself. Also, why sometimes you just can’t do-it-yourself.
Constellation is a process. It helps people to reveal hidden dynamics in their relationships with families, work, health and other areas of their life. This process increases the flow of love, harmony and balance in all systems. How is a constellation done? The constellation process looks like the following: The client talks to a facilitator about an issue that she or he is seeking a solution. The facilitator suggests to the client one or multiple people/elements in this issue that can be set up as representatives. Either the c
We all carry some unfinished business from our family of origins when we go to workplaces. Some people are more aware of this than the other. The family dynamics from our past can affect our ability to deal with here and now situations no matter you are aware of it or not. Even when we have been well into our adulthood for many years and thought that we have left the old feelings behind, sometimes a particular person or a situation at workplace can bring all that old feelings back. For example, a very successful business woman deals with any